Article by motigi
You can read my manga "Gay Fuzoku no motigi-san: Sexuality wa Jinsei da" (motigi of the Gay Sex Industry: Sexuality is Life) on pixiv Comic or buy it in stores from August 9th.
You could say I am a former professional athlete in the gaylimpics who got lucky. Experiences in that field? I had quite a few.
Anyways, today I received an e-mail from a man.
I like any cute characters, whether they are top or bottoms, but that seems to stir up some controversy... I don't know how to move in the yaoi community, I feel like there are a lot of fights...
Pen-name: Yamada Majiru (25, male)
Let's go through this compelling e-mail together, shall we?
First of all, although I speak of my self as a hybrid & new-comer gay who enjoys gay videos and yaoi, I must admit that I do not know many authors or creators of such. I also am no expert on the uses and lingo of the community.
I'll use this question as an opportunity for me to gather some new knowledge.
Certainly, the yaoi community has many things in common with the gay one. I think that both have a very long history and in both, you can see veterans calling themselves those despicable names they used to be addressed with back in the day when things were harder and they used to fight for the rights they have now. I, too, feel like it's something definitely bigger than me and that I could never grasp the depth of it in its entireness. It's definitely interesting, I'd say it arouses me as much gay videos do.
A niche, made to protect what people believe in, away from prying eyes.
My guess is that in these very communities some people tend to form niches and it's only natural for different people who are not familiar with their beliefs to confront them and for these confrontations to lead to some controversies. And I think that that happens because there is basically no rule in those niches, as they were never meant to have any, being nothing but the extension of a comfortable place to those who created them.
Also in the gay community, everybody knows that "this bar is frequented by this certain age, body-type and style-kind-of guys" even if nobody ever says it out loud. It's only natural for people who don't know about it so sometimes cross that invisible line. Think of a guy who likes "bigger" men stepping into a bar full of twinks. He would sure feel out of place.
If someone were to step into one of those niches and start up a fight with no respect for who belongs there, surely such a thing would only lead to confusion. If you think about it, I feel like most of the controversies are nothing more than an exhibition of the right to protect something.
As a Fudanshi (a boy enjoying male-romance works) in the yaoi community, you surely represent a minority and might feel isolated or scared by people fighting, but try and think about it the other way around: if people keep fighting like this, it's because they have many things to protect, and you should respect the entire community for that.
And if you feel like it's too much, lose yourself in the gay video heaven for a while! Or, better, you could come here and watch some with me!
Don't run away!!! Hey!!! Wait!!! (Now imagine me clumsily chasing you)
The fact that he is gay was exposed when he was 18, much to his dismay, and it resulted in his separation with his mother and move to Tokyo. He first worked in the gay sex industry in Shinjuku Ni-chome and afterward, he experienced working on various things in the gay industry including gay bars and gay videos...
He publishes essays and comics based on his own personal experience and is gaining popularity. He has more than 400,000 followers on Twitter. His first book "Gay Fuzoku no motigi-san: Sexuality wa Jinsei da" (motigi of the Gay Sex Industry: Sexuality is Life) will be published on August 9, 2019.