Curry Zawa Kaoru's Creative Counseling - You may get lengthy complaints because you're Detective Conan
I keep getting lengthy complaints
My IB (Imaginary Balls) shrink just thinking about receiving one of those lengthy complaints, an ostentatious display of the sender's writing and expressive skills honed over years of creative work.
If it was a one-time occurrence, one may think they've touched the heartstrings of a sensitive yakuza or a member of a naive antisocial force, but if it happens repeatedly, there could be a reason.
First and foremost, this may have less to do with you or the sender and more to do with the environment in which incidents like these are likely to occur.
The fact that the senders seem to have a preference for less-than-popular pairings suggests that these instances are taking place in an underdeveloped niche.
In terms of sheer number, there are indeed far more incidents in large cities than in underpopulated ones.
However, the crime scene in major niches is similar to Grand Theft Auto in that you'll be mugged on your way there and again on your way back, making it difficult to remember the faces of every single mugger.
Minor niches and pairings, on the other hand, have a smaller population, so even if you don't want to, you will eventually get to know the people who are active there.
Despite this, many villagers refuse to communicate beyond a nod, and many believe they are the only residents, practicing self-ostracization. Some of the villagers, however, still manage to survive the hunger and cold by showing their work and sharing their impressions.
Strong ties do not automatically transform a village into The Village of Eight Graves. Because there aren't enough resources to burn or enough people to light fires, most villages simply pass the time, and before long, they end up sinking into a dam.
In rare cases, the villagers have become so close that it makes no difference what niche, pairing, or creative activity they're involved in because they'll just quarrel for the sake of quarreling.
If you've been an otaku for a long time, you've probably had at least one incident that still makes you look into the distance, eyes ajar, and say "Yup, that was nasty..." but that doesn't happen very often.
So the first possible explanation behind the fact that you keep getting lengthy complaints is that you are, in fact, Detective Conan.
Mind you, this does not imply that you're some sort of shinigami, the source of all woes. A quarrel requires two opponents: the best one can do on their own is finger-wrestling.
What I'm trying to say is, if you're Conan, then the other part must be none other than Kindaichi.
And if you combine Conan, Kindaichi, and a tiny village deep in the mountains where they still sing the old songs of minor pairings, something is bound to happen.
Everything always stays exactly the same, which is probably why similar murders (a.k.a. lengthy complaints) continue to occur.
So, how can we prevent these incidents from happening? The first option is to admit that you're not suited to the close relationships of tiny villages and instead engage in dry activities in larger cities.
Even in real life, many people who didn't fit in in their rural hometowns ended up finding their place in the city.
But, let's be real, that's never why an otaku chooses their niche.
To begin with, niches are not something you choose, but rather something you bump into, so whether the swamp you happen to come across is urban or rural is pure luck.
Now, let's consider what motivates people to write you long-winded complaints.
Your briskness may be misunderstood
In relationships as in life, LURK MOAR
You were a big deal to them
However, I can say that it's not because you're insensitive that you are prone to stepping on the landmines of serious and sensitive types; rather, I believe we're lucky to have someone like you, who can easily relate to others even to those who have difficulty making friends due to their poor communication skills.
It's impossible to write a 10,000-word novel about a character you don't like, and it's even harder to write a lengthy complaint to someone you only mildly dislike.
I believe it's because you were such a big deal to them that they send you long, unwelcome feedback when something goes wrong.
It's a manifestation of those big feels we all love to dump on our OTP, but it's not so fun when those same feels get dumped on you.
In this situation, neither party is wrong: you're just not compatible.
Now that you know who you're incompatible with, if you happen to meet a serious, sensitive, and shy writer of long texts in an underdeveloped niche in the future, tell them that Conan and Kindaichi shouldn't be together in order to prevent needless deaths and try to maintain your distance, no matter how heartbreaking this may sound.
Here's the problem: I'm the type that easily gets hit with long-winded complaints.
I mainly dabble in the doujin manga arts and I find myself getting about one of these whiny essays from a different person every year.
Though the contents may range from "Why are you changing niches?" to "I actually really dislike what you did (or said) that day, at that time, and in that place.", I'm basically being attacked in these lengthy lament fests.
I've also noticed that those sending me unwelcome feedback have a few things in common:
・Not very active in the community
・A serious personality types
・A preference for less-than-popular pairings
・Their own works are either sensitive or very long
I was even fond of the senders, but after getting so many complaints from others, I've just become exhausted with the whole thing.
I realize changing others is nearly impossible, so I'd rather change myself. How can I become someone who doesn't attract negative feedback?